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    this is going to be my new blogsite for regular rants of mine.

    This hopefully will supplement my webpages.

    please, if you comment stay on subject. I am interested in feedback, especially real thoughtful feedback. if you don't agree with what i believe that's fine too, but argue about why you believe differently, if that's appropriate.

    and of course, this is for fun interest and for something to think about, not to offend anyone's ideas or beliefs.

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I never knew less about communication then now. The more I learn about how people communicate, the more questions I have.

Communication does not just mean the words that we say, it also includes gestures and facial expressions, written communications, the impression you have on people, and body language.

People speak differently in different languages, mostly because different languages are built differently. In english we say “the red book”, in spanish you say “the book red”, (el libre rosa). One of the books about language I mentioned in another post said that English is more logical than other languages, for this reason above and other reasons.

The same reasoning goes to idioms, in Spanish there is no “fly on the wall” idiom. In English people say, “I would have liked to be a fly on the wall…”. In Spanish, fly has different connotations, spanish fly is one example, but also flies are considered active and vibrant and partying bugs.

For deaf people, American Sign Language doesn’t mean anything in Spanish.

But through studying people’s behavior and communication, and through my limited spanish language experiences I have come to understand more about language and the way we talk.

One example: Think about when you ask a question. After you ask a question, especially me because i like to clarify my question, I will follow with other questioning statements or other questions. Obviously, they don’t make it easier for the other person to answer the question when I do that. But, usually after you ask a question, you sometimes realize more information is needed.

person 1: Are we going over the draw bridge?

person 1: Where the boats go under the bridge.

person 1: The bridge that crosses into the borough.

person 1: The bridge that goes into Manhattan.

person 2: Yes, but we will be going into the borough of Brooklyn.

This is sometimes the way people communicate, and it is somewhat flawed, but at the same time, it usually works pretty well.

Of course, This is still pretty disorganized communication. That’s the kind I’m good at, but ….. not the best kind.


Communication is usually at the heart of every success or every failure. Unfortunately, saying the wrong thing at the wrong time or place can ruin your whole life; alternatively, it may make you a millionaire or move you into a highly successful position. It’s unbelievable the power that communication has over our lives.


I don’t understand people

Obviously, I understand some people, you know – the ones who think like me.

What is it with people and their illogical ideas ? Some of us have the right idea. Then other people, well they just want to do things another way. The wrong way.

Some people just say things and you don’t argue with them. You can’t. They wouldn’t believe you anyway.

Guy says, “My f^%$#n case manager told me to come down here.”
“Sir, you can’t cuss in our lobby.”
“You’re the only one who has a problem with my language.”
“Sir, I’m the only one here right now. But I don’t have to put up with your language.”
“Well I don’t have to put up with you.”
“That’s absolutely correct Sir, see you later. ”
“What? You’re making me leave?”
“If you don’t want to stop cursing that’s fine, but you can’t stay in our lobby. Those are the rules.”
“I’m here to do an application to live here. You have to let me stay. This is business !”
“If you stop cursing then you can stay and do an application.”
“Oh, F@#& this man ! You don’t want to help me that’s fine. “

Some people just don’t understand.

A guy tries to get a deal on a cell phone, and can’t. He is signing a new 2 year contract, so he tries to get 25% off the accessories. The agent tells him they can’t do that, they have already broken the rules letting him upgrade a day before they were supposed to let him upgrade. So, he walks out of the store.

I told my little sister, figure out what you want to do, figure out how to do it, and do it ! Don’t play around, make excuses, procrastinate, or let other people give you an excuse. But, on the other hand, you have to follow certain rules.

It has always amazed me when people walk into a store and start a conversation with the person behind the counter. They start some kind of questioning and when they get a “NO” answer, they want to argue or raise their voices. Sometimes they even threaten and wave their fists around.

To what end ? What positive outcome could that possibly have ? Any normal situation and you can expect the little nice person behind the counter, who wants no trouble anyway, is going to call the cops, maybe, or his manager.

These are the idiots you here riding the bus complaining, “I lost my car, now i gotta ride this bus that sucks. I got kicked out of Wally Mart for cussing at the girl at the Return stand. She was dumb !”

And people listen to me and they say that it seems I do understand; it’s those idiots that don’t understand.


In customer service we talk to people who will ask you a question and you tell them it has to be either black or white. They say, “I want red.” You can’t enter the program if you have red, only black or white. “I want red, only red.” And we just look at them like they are from another planet because they have no idea. They are trying to get into our program, but they are literally talking their way out of our program.

Unbelievable !